Q: I am in my 50’s, newly single & trying dating apps for the first time - what should I do?
After my marriage, I found navigating dating apps to be completely daunting, so I understand what you are going through. Although some experiences were as toxic & confronting as everyone warned me, I also had some moments of genuine fun & connection.
In the beginning I asked friends to help with photos & content. Some things worked well & others not so much. So many men have told me they matched with someone who, upon meeting, looked nothing like their photos. So many women have told me their match was much shorter than expected. I met with a match who warned me he was shorter than his profile stated. I was happy for the warning but still shocked in real life. TBH this is statistically true of dating apps, women mostly lie about their appearance & men mostly lie about their height.
Above all else, be authentic. Keep it snappy & fun & honest.
Choose three current photos that accurately represent who you are: a clear headshot that showcases your eyes (the window to your soul), a recent full-body shot, and an image of something you enjoy doing.
Don’t lie - honesty is key to building trust from the start. Double-check for any grammar or spelling errors which can be an instant ick.
Remember, dating apps are just a tool for connection. Trust your instincts, text & chat before planning to meet. And above all else, don't forget to have some fun along the way. You never know what—or who—might be waiting for you on the other side of that screen.
